No one had EVER told me what my drama coach was telling me. Ever. In an improv level one class in 2004, the teacher was telling me that it's okay to be ugly. I remember the words sinking in and settling down into my soul
My whole life, either intentionally or implied, the messages I had gotten where pretty similar: Do your best. Look your best. Wear a little make-up when you go out. Lose 10 pounds. Stand up straight. Be nice. Strive for perfection... and only then you will be good and loved.
No one had ever said, "Lisa, it's okay to be ugly."