‘If you want to influence another person, the way to start is to nurture them.’
I read that line this morning by author John Maxwell, and wondered how that may apply in our relationships in discussing anything from cooking to politics. Maxwell went on to quote John Knox, who over 400 years ago said ‘You cannot antagonize and influence at the same time’.
Maxwell continues: ‘At the heart of the nurturing process is the genuine concern for others. And as we try to help and influence the people around us, we must have positive feelings and concern for them. If you want to help people and make a positive impact on them, you cannot dislike or disparage them. You must give love to them and give them respect’
That’s easier to do with someone you already have agreement with. When your views are in conflict with another worldview, it can be be far greater emotional challenge not override your civility in conversation.
Maxwell goes on to say: ‘You may wonder why you should take on a nurturing role with the people you want to influence, especially if they are employees, colleagues, or friends. The unfortunate truth is most people are desperate for encouragement.’
‘If you go on to be major nurturer in the life of another person, then you have an opportunity to make a major impact on them’
Becoming a Person of Influence – John C Maxwell